Sanity is a spectrum.  And the degree to which I am insane is the degree to which I forget how utterly conditioned and entirely made up my beliefs and perceptions are in any moment, allowing me to slip into believing my ego-based thoughts as some insightful truth or ultimate reality.  Whoopsy.  When I’m sane, or at least more sane, I’m more awake to a radical sense of humility and the essential need to create deep understanding about anything only through the superior intelligence of my heart.

So it’s all funny, sad, ignorant and dangerous to think of ourselves as sane just because we don’t see ourselves as bat-shit crazy.

We can never ever truly know anyone – friends, wives or husbands, strangers, parents, or even your own children… unless we make the space and have the humility to connect to who they are… in the moment.

To think you know someone is to risk objectifying them.

Our preconceived ideas of them often easily morph into projections. I’ve done this a million times, righteously missing some key piece of who someone really is, and thus missing some immense beauty about them. I gotta surrender some of my fear-based BS to follow my heart and focus solely on having a loving understanding.

We are all consciousness evolving, and so who you were this morning is in someway different from who you are now. To truly know you is to relate to who you are in this very moment.

The same goes for ourselves. We can as easily objectify ourselves when we lack the space to check in deeply with our hearts. All else is akin to living in autopilot.

The degree to which I lack humility is the same exact degree I separate myself from others.

This is also to say that when humility is lacking, it is often out of fear – we are striving to maintain our identity and position, from the belief that such control keeps us more safe in our experience of life.  Considering our childhoods, this makes sense, as it seemed that the only way to survive emotionally at times was to become good, right, special, better than, impenetrable, etc.  

True connection is created when we can meet another person in their heart… safely, without trying to change them, or get them to have a certain desired opinion of us.  When we let our guard down, let go of our strategies, and see each other as simply human, wherever we are at in our individual process of awakening, we create space.  We close the gap between delusion and truth, disconnection and connection, fear and love, separation and an intimate unification.  Even if the other maintains separation from us due to where they are in their need to have that space, we do our part in moving towards connection with them, and most certainly with ourselves.

Loving unconditionally is not nearly as easy to embody as many believe it is – because it calls for your complete and total annihilation.

It will require of you to leave behind your beliefs, needs, conditionings, peripheral feelings, ideas, projections, and every single last fraying thread of desire to change anything about that being that you are loving.

When you are there, except for humility, acceptance, love and liberation, there will be utterly nothing else left of you.